The Art of Being Patient: New Job, Same Dream

The Art of Being Patient: New Job, Same Dream

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Sharing some pretty exciting news this week! I have accepted a new role at a company called Culture Amp and will be consulting with top HR leaders around the country on their employee engagement and overall happiness at work. 

I am particularly excited about this move because it unites my passions of supporting people in creating more space for self-care at work and working with HR! Plus, this move gives me the stability I need to help even more people and help me to show up as my best self for all of you. 💖
 

Watch my video to learn more about why I accepted this position and what it means for my coaching practice and showing up for all of you.

Now for this week's topic: Being Patient. 


What is it about hearing the words "be patient" that makes us want to scream into a pillow? By that I mean, why is being patient so hard for us? 


Here's my hot take. The more we are forced wait on things (or people) to materialize, the less control we have on the situation.


The less control we have, the more we fear that something we want is not going to happen. Adding to that, we often suffer in the interim while facing the uncertainty that comes with waiting. So in our brain, we equate patience with pain. Now it's easy to understand why we may be resistant to those words, right? 


Let's take a classic example. You apply for a job and you go through the lengthy interview process. Round after round, you progress and although all of your conversations go well, you hear nothing. It's like crickets. They dropped you like you're hot. E.T. did not phone home. So now you're asking your friend's advice on what you should do and they reassure you, telling you to "be patient." 

 

If you're like me, at this point you probably stomp out of the room or sigh dramatically and slump back in your chair. You marinate in that negative head space for anywhere from a few minutes to a few hours. 


In those moments, we often get caught in an anxious thought pattern and spiral out of control. It happens all too often. So is there another option here?


I believe so.

When you feel your patience wearing thin and the heat inside is starting to build, here's a quick game plan to implement:
 

  • Step 1: Pause and ask yourself, "Why is this so hard right now?" It's probably your lack of control over the situation. Breathe in. Breathe out. Let it go.
  • Step 2: Recognize the pain. Acknowledge your suffering and allow it to exist. Give it room to breathe.
  • Step 3: Make a plan.
    What can you do to make yourself feel better in this situation? Think about something else, listen to a happy song, call your friend, watch "The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel" on Amazon Prime. (P.S. If you haven't seen that yet, get on it!) 

The easier you detect your emotions and implement a new plan, the easier the waiting process will be. Remember, no matter where you are on your personal journey, there is no better time to start working on your patience than right now. It's a skill that will serve you well for the rest of your life. 

P.S. Have you been looking to eat healthier, find time for more exercise, learn new relief strategies? I have 1 coaching spot opening up August 1st in my 6-Month Self-Care Program. Interested? Let's chat! Click here to schedule a free 15-minute consult to see if we're a good fit. 

Sending you lots of love and light! 

Maranda Elkin

Health & Life Transitions Coach
Well By Me