Do you ever get the feeling that you just “want to go home?” In uncomfortable situations and environments, I find my brain blasting that on speaker. And I always wonder, what does that mean, brain? Go back to my apartment and bawl my eyes out? I don't wanna do that!
What I realized is it's not always the physical home that our brains our talking about. Going home means going back to safety. Being in a place where you feel completely yourself and authentic, where you can kick up your feet and relax with your vulnerability, and not constantly have to be on guard for what’s coming at you.
Being “home” is a mental state of mind. Practicing being “at home” wherever you are is pretty much what mindfulness means. But how do you get there?
Access Your Past, Present and Future
The first step to feeling “at home” in your body is accepting yourself for who you are. We often look back on “happier times” where we felt more safe, put together, more loved, more needed — and that feels like home to us. But is it possible to gather everything we are into our current state — Past, Present and Future self?
You are all of these people right now. In order to go back to a place where you felt safer, all you have to do is access that part of yourself that remembers a time when you felt safe. Take a few deep breaths and concentrate on the memory. Feel those muscle memories work.
Talk Back to The Voice
Another way to feel “at home” in a spiritual sense is to talk back to that voice in your head. You know the one who never shuts up? The voice that’s always commenting, and working and judging. When that voice tells you to go home, acknowledge it! Say, "Oh hey, friend in my head! I see you. What's that? You want to go home? Ok let's chat."
Then write a journal entry back to that voice. Have a dialogue! That doesn’t mean you're crazy pants, by the way. It means you're reflective. Phone journal entries are my jam!
Practice Daily Meditation
A third way to feel “at home” in your body is to practice meditation. Meditation teaches us to be still with ourselves especially in turbulent times where the world continues moving around us. The more you meditate, the more “at home” you will feel in your mind and body. That's why I recommend a daily practice. Learn more about meditation in my recent blog post A Beginner’s Guide to Meditation.
I hope your day is filled with going places and feeling home. Sending you so much love and good vibes your way. xo Maranda